Kids look up to their parents. They idolize them and make them their heroes. The problem is that as parents, sometimes you can’t live up to those expectations. You don’t want to break your children’s hearts, but if you’re not happy with your partner, you need to do something about it. After all, you both deserve to be happy.
Divorce is never easy for anyone involved, but often the kids take it that hardest. As a parent, adjusting to your new single life is hard enough, so you can’t imagine how difficult it is for your little ones to get used to. Life after a family break-up can be a struggle to adapt to, but in time, both you and your children will do.
You’re probably used to bonding with your kids on family days out and hobbies that you, your ex-partner, and your kids did together. However, now that you’re a single parent, you need to find new ways to bond with your kids. On the days when you have them, you need to make your time together fun and memorable so that you are able to build a good relationship. The question is, what are the best ways to go about doing that?
Take up a new hobby to do together
A simple way to bond with your kids after getting divorced is by taking up a new hobby together. While you can still do the things that you all used to do – as in with your ex-partner, it’s also nice to do new things. Ask your children if there’s a new hobby that they might like to take up, such as a sport that they’ve always wanted to try, and see what they say.
If they come up with something, such as fishing, for instance, that they want to try, get the equipment that you need and take them fishing. If you’re not sure what the best items are, sites like The Smart Consumer can help. With their comprehensive reviews of sports and outdoors products, review sites can be highly useful. If you’re going to invest in stuff for yours’ and your children’s new hobby, it’s a good idea to make sure it’s a hobby that you’ll stick at, before you buy.
On the nights that you have your children, spend some of them cooking together. Instead of your kids spending all their time with you watching TV or playing on their phones, spend some quality time cooking together. Cooking can be a lot of fun and a great way to bond with your kids, no matter what their ages.
Say you have your kids every Tuesday, as well as every other weekend, name each night that you have them after a food. So, for instance, Tuesdays could become ‘Taco Tuesdays. Meaning that every Tuesday night you make different Mexican dishes, including some tacos. Saturdays could become ‘Sausage Saturdays’, meaning that every Saturday night you do a different sausage-based dish. It’s the little things like this that make the best memories, so get creative and see what you can come up with.
Go on a family vacation
How about planning a family vacation for you and your children? It might not be the same without your ex-partner there, but family holidays can be a lot of fun, and a great way to make memories. So it could be worth planning one for you and your kids. Whether it’s just a couple of nights at a local campsite or two weeks in sunny Spain, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you get to spend some quality time together.
To get your kids excited about going away with you, let them pick where they want to go. Give them some places that you would like to take them to, and ask them to vote on it. Then, once you’ve decided where you’re going, spend time together researching the place and planning your trip. This is a great bonding exercise and a great way to get everyone excited about going away.
The truth is divorce is never going to be easy for your kids. It may even impact your relationship for a while, especially if you were the one who instigated the separation. But by taking note of the suggestions above, you can build some fantastic bonds with your kids. It may take time, but you’ll get your little family back to being as happy as it was pre-divorce. Believe it or not, making time for your kids is all it takes.