Pretty much every dad on earth wants to set a good example for their kids. I’m sure you can think of at least one mistake you made in your youth which you want your kids to avoid at all costs. However, with the frantic pace of modern life, setting a great example for your kids is often easier said than done. Here, I’ll go over some of the most common scenarios where good dads set bad examples. Try to be a little more aware of these, and you’ll be a much better parent in the long run.
First of all, being too blasé about our vices. Seen as you’re reading this, I’ll assume that you work very hard to provide for your family. You suck up and do hard shifts at the office to put food on the table and Netflix on the TV, and that’s before all the housework and chores you have to get through. You’re certainly entitled to unwind with the odd vice here and there, but it’s a big mistake to act like it’s a normal part of life in front of your kids. They look up to you, and when they see you getting tipsy at a meal out, filling out lottery tickets, or having a cigar at a party, it can be easy for a child to assume this is normal and healthy. Until they’re old enough to understand moderation, try to keep your vices on the down low. Wait until they’ve gone to sleep to have that scotch, and use things like William Hill Bonus Bets & William Hill App rather than a big computer screen.
Another bad example a lot of dads set is asking questions, but not really listening to the answer. When your child comes home from school you might give them the routine “how was your day?” Taking an interest in your family’s lives is obviously a good example to set. However, if you do it when you’re in the middle of something; cooking the dinner, cleaning a room, you might risk seeming like you really don’t care about the answer. Ask your kids about their day, but wait for a good time. Follow up with more questions, find out about a video game you know nothing about, and tell them about your day in return. The worst message you can send is “you only have to act interested in what other people are saying”.
Finally, not admitting to your mistakes. This is something all of us are guilty of from time to time, but when you become a parent it’s really something you should work on. Let’s say your kid does something that really gets you mad, and you confiscate their tablet for a week. Later, you realize that you’re being too harsh, but you don’t want to come off as a soft touch. While setting limits is important, it’s even more important to teach your kids that you have to admit mistakes and face the music sometimes. If there’s one thing that will lower your value as a role model in their eyes, it’s coming off as a hypocrite.