It’s one of the world’s bitter ironies that unwanted babies are born to unprepared parents, while couples who are more than ready don’t get to be parents, at least not in the biological sense of the word. But there’s no use complaining, really. What you can do is make the most out of the bad bargain.
Visit Your Doctor
So here you are, trying to get pregnant in your first two years of marriage, but the attempt remains futile. It may have already crossed your minds to visit an infertility clinic, but neither one has the guts to start the sensitive conversation. However, you should know that ignoring or even downplaying the situation can ruin your chances of conceiving successfully. What you should do, instead of speculating on which one of you is infertile, is go to your doctor ASAP and have a fertility test done on both parties.
A simple visit to the doctor is the first positive step in your infertility journey. Denial and outright refusal to face the problem does nothing but aggravate and prolong your suffering as a couple. Don’t lose hope. With a little cooperation with the fertility experts, you may be soon blessed with a little bundle of joy you’ve long prayed for. Keep in mind that there are couples who have failed multiple times before finally succeeding.
What to Expect at the Clinic
The doctor will order a series of pelvic exams and blood tests for women. Men, on the other hand, will be asked to undergo a complete semen analysis, which covers sperm count, sperm motility and sperm quality, shape and concentration. If you are intimidated by the awkward process of having to harvest a semen sample in a clinical atmosphere, you can take advantage of a more modern male fertility test kit that you can use in the privacy and comfort of your own home. There are even high-tech kits that allow you to see your sperm live in action using a free app you can download on your smartphone.
Broaching the Taboo Subject of Male Infertility
Since there are literally hundreds of blogs on fertility in women, it would be helpful to somehow shed some light on infertility in men. Believe it or not, in more than a third to one half of infertility cases, the male carries the problem.
Male infertility is typically attributed to:
- Erectile dysfunction.
- Retrograde ejaculation.
- Abnormally shaped sperm.
- Poor sperm count.
- Poor sperm motility.
- Prescription medications.
- Venereal diseases.
How to combat it:
- Avoid overexposure to heat. Fertility specialists say that frequent hot tub or sauna sessions promote a decrease in fertility, and so does drugs and cigarettes.
- Avoid over-the-counter testosterone supplements, as they show an adverse effect on sperm count.
- Stick to a healthier lifestyle, especially since sperm creation can take three months.
- Try natural alternative methods in improving fertility, such as acupuncture. It has been found that this ancient Chinese method increases sperm count and improves sperm quality.
Whatever the unknown future may have in store for you at the end of your infertility journey, what’s of utmost importance is that you maintain a healthy and strong relationship with or without children.