Becoming a dad is easy. Becoming a great dad requires labor. It also depends on how much will you have to put in an effort to become a great dad. Fearing that you won’t be a good father is a common apprehension among most to-be fathers. This is because fatherhood comes with overwhelming responsibilities. But still, fathers have it a tad easier than mothers.
How to be a Great Dad?
You could feel lost and pessimistic when you realize you’re not being able to care for your child as much as you wanted to. But we are here to help you realize that being a great dad is a matter of knowing what effort to put in and in what ways.
1. Stop worrying
You could only become a great dad if you learned to be a great husband. Yes, it is as easy as that. Listen to your significant other. Share her responsibilities. Work on your marriage and create a loving family your child would want to be a part of.
2. Live Your Life as it Was
You had a life before your child, and you should not forget that. You don’t need to plan every single thing around your child or make a new schedule according to the baby. Children are a part of your life. Accept that things will not be easy but being yourself and living your life in the way you are used to is important as well.
3. Let the Mommy Have Some Time for Herself
Mothers tend to dedicate all their time and effort to their child. Their endless love and affection are what makes them so special. But she too deserves a night out! A great dad would manage to let the mommy have some self-time while he looks after the baby. No matter how hard it may seem, you need to let her have her own life. As a bonus, you also get time to bond with your baby.
4. Join the Mom for Late-Night Duty
It’s not an easy thing to do. Waking up in the middle of the night to calm down a crying baby is much stressful than you could have imagined. If the baby is being breastfed, then the mother has to do her duty. If that’s not the case, then try making milk for your child. A little contribution will go a long way. You know what more you could do? Give company to your wife while she remains awake breastfeeding the baby and talk to her while both of you are sleepy. These will be memories you both would want to hold onto and always smile while looking back. Not only your marriage will become stronger, but you’ll also feel proud of yourself for being able to go through this.
5. Be There When They Need You
The best thing you could do for your child is to be there for them whenever they need you. Relate yourself to this and think about how much you needed your dad when you were a child. Just like that, every child needs their father to be there to love them and nurture them.
6. Become a Guide
Children learn the most from their parents. Don’t just leave the responsibility on the mom. Your words have significance to your child. Your children may spend most of their time with their mom and expect to learn from her, but it’s your duty to be their guide. Talk to them about how their preference matters. Tell them how much you love them, and you will be by their side be it good or bad. That’s what a real dad does.
7. Never Abuse Your Child
Abusing your child or even trying to scold them on irrelevant or trivial matters will only create a distance in your relationship. Your child is innocent enough not to realize the reason behind your concern. Apart from that, abusing is not the right thing to do. There are many other ways to make them feel ashamed if they have done something wrong and the best thing is to talk to them about the issue.
8. Don’t Listen to Every Advice
Everyone has their way of parenting, and they might advise you to do the same. But you should know that what might have worked for them may not work for you. You don’t have to be a parent who is very friendly or way too strict. You just have to understand what your child wants and act accordingly.
9. Cherish Every Moment
After a long day at work, you could only think of resting on the couch and watching TV. But you’ll be missing out on the crucial part of your life by not spending your spare time with your children. That is when you can bond with them. Play with your little ones with toys, because toys contribute an essential part in your child’s cognitive development. If you’re a father of a son, give him the right toys a one-year-old would love to play with. Allocate time in your schedule for family time.
10. Be With the Mom
Mom duties are a thing of the past. As mentioned earlier in the post, that the way to be a good father connects with being a good husband. Switch up jobs and try to improvise. Read stories to your baby, play with them, take them to a park or join them in their imaginary tea parties. Avoid being rude to your spouse in front of the kids. They may not love you for hurting each other. Create a loving relationship with you both so that your children feel loved and a part of a healthy family.
Being a good father requires an effort in each step of your life. Have patience and respect your spouse for what she’s putting up with. Learn to show your affection towards them, don’t shy away from that. Actions speak louder than words. Be the dad you always wanted your children to have. As long as you listen to your heart, everything else will fall into place.
Shawn is a content writer at Feedfond. A doting father to his two children and a loving pet parent to his dogs, he’s full of love. Check out more of his articles at Feedfond.com.