Dating as a single parent can be difficult. If you’re ready to get back into dating, these ideas will help make it less stressful and more enjoyable.
See New Places
We know what you’re thinking — it’s hard to meet singles at kid-friendly areas like the playground or the zoo. Alternatively, you may attempt something innovative like taking a course or joining a group. You’ll undoubtedly meet new friends!
Dive into internet dating. It’s a great method for single adults to meet people without having to go to bars or go on awkward blind dates put up by friends. If you’re not into the folks you’re meeting, try a dating service for a month or two. But don’t give up too soon. Nearly two – fifths single Americans have used online dating, making it a popular way to meet new people.
Ditch Mom Jeans and Dad Jumpers
Parenting is your primary responsibility, but that doesn’t make mom pants (or oversized sweaters) acceptable. Change out of your parental garb and into something that will make you stand out. You’ll not only garner people’s notice, but also a pleasant boost in self-esteem. (A fresh hairstyle wouldn’t hurt!)
Time is limited when you have kids, but it doesn’t mean you can’t date. Ask your date to meet for an afternoon coffee or a breakfast date after the kids go to school — whatever works for you. Just don’t keep reminding your date about how busy you are – she already knows and doesn’t need to feel rushed.
Being a parent doesn’t necessitate dating another parent. A non-parent asking you out. Don’t discount him because he hasn’t changed a diaper. Give him a chance. If you aren’t used to this, you may want to think about using phone chat numbers to build your confidence and feel more comfortable before properly dating.
Avoid Baby Talk
It’s impossible to resist talking about your kids on a first date. While your kids are an important part of your life, they do not define you. Focus on hobbies, work, and other interests, and keep the kid talking until the third or fourth date.
Mention Having Kids
You may feel embarrassed to say you have kids, but don’t hide their existence. Pretending to be someone you are not never a good idea, and your date will be annoyed when you finally admit it. Single parenting is nothing to be ashamed of – openly mention your kids and move on to other things.
When to Introduce Kids
Someone you’ve been casually seeing will likely be introduced to your kids. Then introduce your date as your newfound “friend” if your kids are young. It’s okay if your kids refuse. Reassure them that their new companion is not a substitute for their parents.
Anxiety over re-entering the dating scene is common, but it’s no reason to remain home in your PJs. Sweaty hands and butterflies are signals that you’re venturing outside your comfort zone. Before your date, tell yourself to relax and have fun. Isn’t that the point of dating?
As you can see there are many things you can do to make dating as a single parent less stressful. Remember you deserve to have some time to yourself, even as a parent. Do you have any other tips that could help? Please share them in the comments below.