As a parent, your job is to make sure your kids are happy and healthy. You must make sure that they’re ready to combat the world when the time comes to flee the nest. If you can raise a confident, competent, and happy person, then you’ve done a great job.
In order to ensure they are happy, smart, and ready for the world, you have to ensure that they’re ready to live the life they want. If they head into the world thinking that everything is a worry and that they’re on someone else’s planet, that’s going to be a problem. You’ll have your own interests and agendas as an individual, but you have to make sure that they have their own dreams and that they’ll have enough self-esteem to conquer them. Here are a few ways you can make that happen:
Be A Positive Influence Every Single Day
If you’re a positive person who views life as something full of possibilities, then you’re going to put that onto your kids – that’s just how our brains work. They’ll become just like you and they’ll see what life all is about. If you’re negative and think life is pointless, then they’ll probably grow up to be miserable people with no ambition or zest for life.
Head Out and Do More Things with Them
Do more things together with them and they’ll understand a lot more. They’ll become a lot more confident, too, as experience does a lot more than learning from a book or the internet. Doing new things like heading out on double threat charters and fishing, or traveling to new countries and exploring, can help them gather more information and a better perspective on what’s out there.
Don’t Be a Judgmental Person In General
We’re all insecure beings at one time or another. We do worry about what people think at times – some do this more than others, of course. If they say they like something or want to do something, and you have something negative to say about it, then they’ll likely feel embarrassed or foolish. Be less judgmental if this is a trait of yours and you’ll have a lot more confident kid.
Educate Them on Lots of Areas Of The Planet
You don’t have to become a great lecturer to them, but simply letting them know about so many things can open them up to all kinds of possibilities. If you have a closed mind and don’t allow them to learn, then the opposite will occur.
Don’t Live Vicariously Through Them
So many parents try to create lives for their kids. Many didn’t get to live out the dreams and the life that they wanted, so they try to make it happen through their children. Don’t do this. Let them live their own lives and let them do what they wish – within reason, of course. Don’t tell them that they can’t do something simply because YOU don’t like the idea of it. In the grand scheme, what you want doesn’t really matter and they might grow to resent you as the years go by. They’re your offspring but they’re not your clone – so don’t try to force anything onto them.